The loss doesn't seem to pass...does time really heal? - Page 2

x19er · #11 06-24-2009, 06:47 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't think the pain goes away it just doesn't hurt quite as much as time passes. It will be almost a year since our Sophie went to the bridge and I think of her everyday and miss her so so much. I think we always feel guilty that we didn't do enough, made the wrong decision etc etc and you have to learn to accept that you did what you thought was right at the time and that's all any of us can do. Once you can accept that I really think it helps you to move on.

Gruntsmom · #12 06-24-2009, 10:43 PM

Your post made me cry, too, as truly your feelings are felt by all of us. Sending you hugs of understanding.

Please Work · #13 06-25-2009, 12:34 AM

The pain will ease, and please don't beat yourself up over the decisions you made because even if you had of gone the other way you would still be questioning if you had of done the right thing. You should remember you gave her every chance you possibly could, sounds like you tried everything available to her - there is nothing more she could have asked of you, and I'm sure she would be greatful for that. I still can't bear to look at photos of our Cavalier who passed 7 1/2 months ago but I am starting to recall funny moments without crying every time, it is a slow process that everyone deals with differently - you will get there, I'm sure we all will.

Sugarcain · #14 06-25-2009, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by DyckDogs

Some one posted a few weeks ago that the pain never goes away, you just learn how to deal with it differently. That is the best description I have read yet.

I second this. I lost both my huskies within a year of each other to cancer. My baby girl was almost 13 and her son was 11. I still cry (at night when no one else is around) when I think about them and they have been gone for 3 years now. When I felt it was time to get a new dog (my house felt too empty even with 5 cats and two kids still at home), I couldn't even think of another husky so I got a mixed breed and 10 months later a boxer.

I don't think that I will ever stop thinking about them and I still call Sugar Shayna occaisionly, and Cain still gets called Coda every so often, but at least now I can talk about them to the kids and not cry. I don't want to forget them and I don't want the kids to either, and If I don't talk about them I'm afraid they will be forgotten. Even writing this, I'm crying (but there is no one else here so it is ok.)

Sugar and Cain have not replaced Shay and Coda, but they have helped ease the sadness. So although the pain doesn't go away, it does get easier to deal with it.

bucca · #15 06-28-2009, 07:21 AM

Its been over a year with Chloe leaving and I still think of her all the time, but time does and it will heal the pain, I now laugh instead of cry when I think of all the funny crazy things she did.

There is no time limit on grief so take all the time you need.

boxermomATL · #16 06-28-2009, 06:46 PM

You are in my thoughts.

ELubas · #17 07-01-2009, 04:35 PM

The pain is very intense because the love is so intense. I do not think it ever goes away, just becomes part of who you are. Memories will become more joyful to remember though, and they are precious. I am so sorry for your loss but try not to doubt yourself-everything you did you did out of love and devotion and your girl , Maggie, knew that. She is your guardian angel now, safe at the bridge with my sweet Frazier Boy, and all the boxer angels. They are waiting for us

Take care

IluvLucy · #18 07-05-2009, 05:53 PM

It will get better, It just takes longer for some. May your pain be less soon.

pokernerd · #19 07-05-2009, 06:12 PM

I'm very sorry for your loss. My Bandit just died 2 days ago. It will get better...I didn't think so when I lost my 2 year old fawn Baxter in my arms almost 8 years ago. The pain will fade but the memories won't nor will the void they leave when they are gone. Your new baby is a cutie good luck!

Darlene Auer · #20 07-06-2009, 02:34 PM

I am also hoping time will help with the pain...I lost Taz on November 15th, 2008 and his Daughter Tasha on May 15th, 2009 and I cry all the time. I miss them so much and I do try and remember all the great times but, it is so hard to function when everytime you turn around - something reminds me of them both.

I hope your pain does get easier and remember that none of our babies are suffering.

OUR BOXERS ARE ALWAYS LOVED AND WILL BE FOREVER MISSED!

RIP TAZ & TASHA & MAGGIE!!!