Not Sure How To Do This?

[jray]

Sharon I am so happy for you! Everything will turn around you just wait and see. Everyday will get better and brighter!

[Minty]

Sharon,

Just wanted to add some good old fashioned, he got what he deserves, kiwi best wishes for you and your kids (skin and fur).

Have the most wonderful Christmas Sharon, knowing that when the New Year clocks over you are in charge of your own life from here on out and you can do anything you want to.

You are an amazingly strong lady. I hope others who might be unfortunate enough to be in a similar situation to yourself now see there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year from myself and Hillie.

[Marybeth18]

What Jen forgot to add to the visual was Willis woo wooing and chasing after her trying to attack those pom pom's!!!

[xenaprincess]

Jen...ROFLMAO!!! Thank you so much for that!! I almost spit my coffee out this morning reading your post..I laughed so hard! That was just priceless...thanks so much for the visual!! Marybeth...I was thinking the same thing cuz all boxers must attack pom poms..at least mine do. We have 2 in the basement in shreds!!

[craZ4HERKIE]

Sharon....I am so proud of you! I know it was probably one of the hardest things you've ever done, or will have to do. DO NOT feel responsible for John! I had(still have) the same worries about Prince (my ex)...I took care of him for YEARS, food, clothing, shelter, car, money..you name it, I did it. So when I left, because I was his caretaker for so long, I just worried about him. But it's time that he grew up and took care of himself. I still have my days when I cry, and miss him terribly, but it was the best thing for me. I had to think of myself for once....especially since he wasn't. I gave him the world, and he gave me his A$$ to kiss....he abused me verbally, physically and mentally...but I still loved him, and part of me always will. My co-workers are telling me it's time for me to move on and start dating, not yet! I was with Prince for 14 years....I can't bear the thought of dating yet, however it does get lonely...so I just try to keep busy...working, the boys, the gym...and my fave SHOPPING! I need to rediscover myself, before I can begin to think about dating. I wish you all the best, and know that you made the right choice for yourself and kids. Now you can devote time for you, and discover yourself, and what you want to do. There will be ups & downs...but before you know it...it will be all UPS! Keep us posted on everything!

[Madison's Mom]

My thoughts and prayers will be with you. I'm over the three year mark of my divorce and still have feelings that come and go but girlfriend.......the good far out weighs the bad at this point. Even 6 months out I could see the light. Your's will be shining bright too

I'll join in with a cheer but I won't jump up and down (black both my eyes)..

We are the Boxerwold members, mighty mighty boxerworld members. (Repeat)
Go FIGHT, WIN YEAH SHARON!

Blessing to you and your sweet family!
Tammy

[Shanz]

Hello Sharon. I just wanted to let you know that my sister went through the same thing. Only her kids were younger...4&8. Her husband was cheating on her got anoher lady pregnant didnt help with child support or anything But you what. We helped her through it and now she has 2 great kids (now 11 and 15) and shes doing so much better without him. Shes lost weight moved to a new house and now laughs at all the stuff hes going through.

Just hang in there!

[xenaprincess]

Tammy...thank you too for that wonderful cheer!! It keeps playing in my head!! Shanz..thank you too for the encouragement! You guys have no idea how much this helps me to keep it together and stay strong!
I have had soooo many moments when I miss John terribly, and I wonder "how can I possibly miss him so much after all he has done?" Last week I kept myself so busy I almost burned myself out, and yet, he remained on my mind! He calls alot and a few times I did not take his call. Times that I did take his call, the conversation started pleasant enough, up until he asks what I have been doing. I took my daughter to a friends 4yr olds bd party on Thursday. John called several times while I was out. When he did reach me later that night, he gave me a real hard time about where I was and made comments like "who else was there?...I suppose you were wearing your tight a$$ jeans?...enjoying your freedom?....who's sharing your bed now?...etc."!! I remind him that it's that attitude and thinking that makes me KNOW I have done the right thing. Then he's all apologetic and says "I just miss you sooo much"!! When he does get nasty with me, it always turns into threats from him that he is going to take Jessica from me and make my life a living hell! Again, I remind him that he has already succeeded in making my life a living hell and as far as Jessica goes, he has threatened too many times to take her and trusting him is no longer an option for me. I am arranging to have his visitation supervised. I was looking at it all the wrong way. I HATE being mean...being the reason for someone else's suffering and pain. However, I see it now not as being mean, but as doing what I have to do to protect the well being of my daughter! Jessica has been a week without her daddy and she is having a difficult time with it. She misses him very much and calls out for him at night in her sleep. I try to keep her busy but I cannot erase her daddy from her mind, and I'm not trying to. Thankfully, she starts counselling this week.
My kids and I have enjoyed the peace and we have laughed, joked and even wrestled on the living room floor!! Of course I worry about finances and debts, but right now the important thing to me is re-establishing a relationship with all 3 of my kids!

[BeckyNC]

Sharon--I applaud you for your decision and for being so strong. I feel bad for John b/c he seems to have some serious issues. That's really unfortunate for him. He's probably be a happier guy if he got some good therapy. That said, you are doing what's right for you, your daughter, and your boys. A change in atmosphere around the house will serve you all well. -Becky

[jmb9101]

Sharon, I just read this whole thread and you are such an amazing person to do what you did. You are so strong and confident now. I am glad that you have found the way to do this all with the help of your community. I am very glad that they are helping you so much. Im also thrilled that you have the kids and the dogs! I hope everything in your future is brighter than it was before. It looks as if it already is getting brighter. Congrats on your many smart moves. I hope your GERD tones down a few notches too. *hugs* to you.

Also I think you are very smart in arranging supervised visitation for him and your daughter, since he is making threats like that to you. Im very glad you got out of that relationship...here's to a better one with your children, and who knows, maybe a wonderful man down the road....who you can call DH, and actually mean Darling Hubby...good luck to you and the kids and the poochies too!

~Melissa

[Sady's Mom]

(((Sharon)))

I don't even know you, but I am so proud of you. There are so many people on this site and so many posts that I can't keep up with them all, but you guys have such a wonderful support system going here - it's amazing.

I have to say that I was LMAO at the "sports bra" comment - LOL!!!

Keep up the wonderful attitude. You definitely deserve more than this jerk.

[basak]

I am actually doing a standing ovation for you Sharon!!!!
Nothing is ever easy but I believe God never gives us griefs or pains that we cannot overcome

basak