Not Sure How To Do This?

[Laurie_Duke]

Sharon...I think right now you need to hear about other women who have been in the same position and have come out just fine....just 6 years ago I was in the same boat as you....I moved from Oshawa to Brampton with nothing but me my 2 children and my neice....while the boyfriend was in jail...I started a new life with the help of strangers...but instead of feeling sorry for myself....I made it a mission to do good for myself and my children....here I am....Sales Manager for a company in Mississauga, making more money than I ever though I would....and have proved to myself and all who doubted me that I indeed made it and nothing or anyone was ever going to stop me....and for all that helped me along the road....I paid them all back with whatever I could....I cleaned houses for them...did gardening...babysat kids and animals until I felt they had been repaid for there generostiy they gave me.

I see the same in you Sharon....and I look forward to every inch you climb...and I will be at the bottom with my cheerleader outfit on cheering you all the way !!!!!

Take Care
Laurie.

[Lael]

Oh Sharon, you are so brave. I don't think I have any advice that can help you right now. But I want you to know that I admire your courage. You have every right to feel the way you do. This, too, shall pass, and all will be well.

Hang in there. You are strong and doing the best thing.

((((((((HUGS)))))))))

Cat

[Marybeth18]

Sharon,

I am so proud of you! It will get better with time. You are a very strong woman! Remember that we are all here whenever you need a should to lean on.

[Austin's Mom]

Sharon I'm sorry you're feeling so badly right now, but the loss of a relationship (good or bad) is still a loss and you have a right and a need to grieve that loss. I only hope you and you daughter feel better really soon and have a great holiday and a new beginning for the new year.

[MizBev]

Sharon,

Hang in there girl. It has been about two months for me and I feel better every day. I know in my heart opf hearts that I did the right thing when I made my husband leave. It has been hard on my son but will be so much better in the long run. Everything will get better in time and you will survive and become even stronger for it. I will also be there cheering you on and we will go through this together.

Bev

[Laurie_Duke]

Originally Posted by MizBev

I will also be there cheering you on and we will go through this together.

Bev

Oh come on Sharon....can you see me and Bev in our little outfits....

give us a "S".....give us a "H"........ok you know the rest...we must save our energy !!!!

Laurie

[Scrapper's Mom]

Even the break-up of a bad relationship is a loss. Your life is no longer the same, those things that were familiar are being changed. Your tears are perfectly understandable. All I know, is that with time, things get easier. Maybe not right now, and not for a while, but gradually, you will recover and be healthy and your life will go on. Hang in there!

Blessings to you and your kids and we are thinking of you -

[xenaprincess]

You guys are all so great...thank you so much for all the encouragement!! Yesterday was a very stressful day for me. I spent the whole day worrying about John and where he was going to go. Although we are not together and when we were it was bad, he is my daughters father and I don't like to see him so down and out. HOWEVER...during 1 of my angry moments yesterday, I called his mother and gave her crap for turning her son away when he really needs his family. HA! Boy did I look like a fool. John has been stringing me a bunch of bull!! According to his mother, she did in fact tell him to come to her house..spend the Holidays there...find work and so on!! He's playing on my emotions I guess so I will feel so sorry for him and let him come back home! Needless to say, I woke up this morning with a new attitude! No pity for John today. My priority today is to see a worker about financial help and set up the counselling for the kiddies, most importantly, Jessica and Alex (2 youngest). Decemeber 1st is traditionally the day we decorate for Christmas. I was really not looking forward to it at all. Now...I will decorate and the kids will help...tomorrow. I am not going to let John ruin anymore Holidays for us!
Also, I spent the entire day yesterday in tears. I came to my computer and checked on BW, and I have to say it was the ONLY time I cracked a smile, and then I laughed out loud visualizing Laurie and Bev and Jen in cheerleading outfits cheering me on! C'mon guys...no slacking!! I wanna hear the whole cheer!
Thanks again everyone. I love you guys...you're the best medicine for me right now!

[Marybeth18]

Sharon,

I am so glad to hear how you are feeling today! You will make it through this!!

[Laurie_Duke]

Thank goodness I had a sports bra on !!!!

[momstaxi]

Wow just saw this part about John leaving. What alot to cope with especially now with the holidays. But you know you did the right thing and things will get better. I can't believe John lied to you about his family, you're right NO more sympathy for him! It sounds to me like you have your priorties straight and you will do fine. I'd join the cheerleading squad too but that is a site you wouldn't want to see! Then again it would make you laugh. Hang in there and Happy Holidays!
michele

[MizBev]

Sharon,

You go girl!!! As Scarlet O'Hara would say, "Tomorrow is another day." I know it's hard not worrying about John, I worry about my husband everytime I see the mess he has gotten himself into. But then I look myself in the mirror and remind myself that HE got himself there and only HE can get himself out. It is hard when there is a child involved. My son is older and bordering on puberty so all of this is my fault anyway. Just stay strong in your resolve and remember that in the long run it is all for the best. We will all be here.

Bev