Not Sure How To Do This?

[xenaprincess]

Thanks so much guys! The reason I am doing it this way (going to a shelter) is because first, he won't leave and many times when he has been asked and told to leave, he always comes back and I always fall for the apologies and promises to change. I cannot keep going in this circle. And, if I am at the shelter, it may only be for a week to 2 weeks tops as the shelter group can get me into housing alot quicker than going on the usual waiting list. I thought about staying here, but it would just be too expensive for me to handle, plus all the old stuff going on with the landlord, it may be best to start off fresh! My brother and SIL have offered to take in my doggeis if needed so that eases my mind alot. I will keep everyone posted. Thanks for your support.

[DanCat]

Good luck, you are doing the right thing. Glad to hear your dogs will have somewhere to stay to so you don't have to give them up.

[Kosmo's Mom]

Good Luck, I hope everything works out for you & your children (fur babies included of course)

[marciafinn]

I am glad to hear that your brother and SIL can help you out with your fur babies. It will help ease your mind with the other things that are going on. Be strong and please keep us posted to let us know that you are safe. ((hugs))

[entelekia]

I am very sorry to hear about your situation, and I commend you for being strong and taking control.

I must say, a lot of what has been going on with your boys lately (school problems, girlfriend problems) makes a hell of lot more sense now. As a child of divorced parents with a stepfather whom I DON'T like, I can say I understand your boys... They were probably just manifesting their home trouble outside of the home. And I am so glad you are doing something about it... they will have a better life, and so will you.

Kudos to you.

[catneon]

Sharon,

I am just reading this now. I am so sorry you have to go thru this difficult time. At least you are at the step where you have realized you have to leave and it is no longer sane for you to be there. I know it will be hard but like Bev said I am sure you will find it is for the best. Also at the shelter they will probably control your visits and even if he was to find out where you were he wouldn't be allowed to see you if you wish not to see him. This happened to a friend of mine and althought her boyfriend had found out where she was the shelter was all locked up and the attendant didn't even confirm she was staying there it's not because it's mental and not physical that it's not abuse. It will give you time to think and like you said get you into housing much faster. You are a very strong woman for taking these steps, I am sending you all the positive vibes I can((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((()))))))))))))))))))))))))))) ))))))))))))))))))))))
I truly wish you the best, please keep us posted, I hope you are ok.

Catherine and Gazou

[craZ4HERKIE]

Sharon....I am just now catching this thread...and I know EXACTLY what you are going through!Get out!Get out ASAP!I left my BF of 14 yrs....I left him with nothing but the clothes on my back...and my boys.My BF would not leave either, he wanted me to support him, allow him to cheat on me...and mentally and physically abuse me.And when you get to that point you will know.You may want to consider a restraining order when you do leave.Try to smuggle a few things out of the house, without him noticing...stash them with friends or family members.You want to take as much as possible without him noticing....the more you can take, that's less you have to buy.Don't give him any ideas that you may be leaving as he will adjust his behavior accordingly...either to abuse or to loving husband...trying to make you forget all the bad.If you need any hints or just want to talk...feel free to pm me!Good Luck and keep us posted!

[jray]

Sharon, I'm so sorry I missed this thread! I hope you are being strong and are safe. I have no idea what you are oging through I just pray for your and children's safety. I wish we were closer so I can help you out. You are a strong woman and I know this will all work out for the best.

Jenny

[momstaxi]

Sharon
Just wondering how you are doing? any updates?
Michele

[Lael]

Sharon,

I found this thread a bit late, but I still want to offer you my support and encouragement. Hang in there and stay strong for your children.

Cat

[xenaprincess]

I just wanted to post an update so my friends here in BW do not worry unnecessarily. I am still here in my home. It's been very stressful but I am getting lots of support through counselling and my church. John comes and goes...he never stays gone! He's like a bad cold that will not go away. We do not speak because it always results in a fight. Living like this has to end and I clearly see that he has no intention of being the one to leave. I hesitate to make the move because I still am not sure if it's the right thing to do...uproot my kids and doggies so close to Christmas. I am struggling with this everyday and I have to muster up the courage to just do it! I know that there is a light at the end of this tunnel. It's just getting to the end of that tunnel....
I know my children and myself will be so much better off, so why is this so darn hard?? I feel as though I have taking a leave of my senses...nobody in their right mind would accept these living conditions, so what is my problem?
I will continue to keep you all posted. Thanks again so much for all your words of encouragement and support.

[Evie&Adam]

it's good to hear from you!! I know it is a very tough situation, but you are doing the right thing - for everyone. Since he comes and goes, is there a chance that maybe you could ask the sheriff to come to "keep the peace" while you talk to him and ask him to leave??? I know our sheriff with do things like this. I agree that uprooting your kids/dogs is very hard. Sounds as if he may leave.

Best of luck!!!

Luvs & sloberry kisses!!