My heart is in a million pieces

ktn67 · #1 12th October 2002, 02:14 PM

Oh God. I don't know what to do . He's taking Jewellee away form me. My bf has decided he can't deal with some of the issues in our relationship so he's taken an apartment and moving out and taking Jewellee with him. She is his legally so there's nothing I can do. I love her jsut as much as he does though. I bought her for him last year for his b-day. I never thoguht this would happen. He had said he would let me watch her when he has to work out of town but now he says he wants to find someone who's home more. Actually he says he thought about having the woman who rents his house keep her (says there's nothing between them and God I need to believe that). I'm losing everything I love all at once and I can't take it. I know I should be grateful she's healthy and I haven't lost her to the Rainbow bridge like some others here but it hurts jsut the same. And it's not just her, the one person I would turn to for comfort is gone too. I just want to curl up and die. I just can't even remember how it feels right now not to hurt. HELP!

AvalancheBoxer · #2 12th October 2002, 03:32 PM

Thats horrible. I am so sorry!!!!!!!
I dont know what to tell you that you can do, but I want to tell you that we are thinking of you during this hard time in your life.

Linda/NJ · #3 12th October 2002, 06:00 PM

Carla, I am so sorry, I just don't know what to say.

I will keep you in my thoughts during this difficult time. Is there any chance of reconciling? I don't really know your situation. I would be so torn apart too. Is there anyway he would let you keep her? Take care and things will get better.

Linda/NJ
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oz4lines · #4 12th October 2002, 09:11 PM

Carla,
I've been wracking my brain since you told me the news and don't know what advise I can offer.
I don't know if your breakup is on friendly terms or anything or just how far you are willing to push the limits to keep Jewellee.

What does your contract from the breeder say? I know you bought her for him, so technically she is his, but isn't she on a co-ownership till shes finished?
How good is your relationship with the breeder? Does he plan on continuing her show career and keep up with her training? He's out of town allot with his job, isn't he?
Any chance you can talk with your breeder? I'm not sure how it would (or if it could) work, but can they take her back and resell her to you (change of ownership) since he wouldn't be working with her, or are they ok with her staying with him and showing her themselves?

I honestly don't know what I'd do, but I'm here if you just need to talk and blow off steam.
Losing both will be hard, one by choice(his) and the other by default. It just doesn't seam right.
Keep me posted.
Jill

BXRmum · #5 12th October 2002, 11:19 PM

God my heart aches for you right now, I am so sorry you are having to go through this

I really can't offer advice but I wish I could ease the pain for you. This is a tremendous loss for you and I hope you are able to find another source of strength to help you (friends, family etc.)

JillHB24 · #6 13th October 2002, 12:10 AM

Carla,

This sounds like an incredibly difficult time. I don't really have any advice other than seeking strength through friends and family like BXRmum said, and through boxerworld too. Life is full of some difficult trials, and many of us can empathize with you. Hang in there girl, I know it hurts and I totally feel for you. Take good care of yourself during this time.

Scrapper's Mom · #7 13th October 2002, 01:03 AM

I'm so sorry to hear you are going through a difficult time. I have also felt like curling up and dying at the end of a relationship and know how bad it hurts. Just try to take it day by day. Eventually, all our bad experiences get wrapped up in that "cocoon of time" in our heads and they don't hurt us so much. I know that doesn't help much now when you feel so bad. Sending positive thoughts to you.

Scorpio · #8 13th October 2002, 06:20 AM

Oh Carla, hang in there! first try and get your own life in order. Keep busy and see a lot of friends, talk to people, the more you talk the better you feel. Try and deal with him leaving first, if there is no way you can work things out in your relationship then try and move on. He says you can see Jewelle and take care of her when he's out of town etc. go for that . I am sure he loves her just as much as you do. Take one step at a time, maybe later on you can get another pup. Will be thinking of you, I know its hard been there twice before and it will all work out for the better.Take Care.

Trish727 · #9 13th October 2002, 08:41 AM

Hi sweetie~its trish

I am so sorry about everything. I know just how much you love your baby. You can't talk to your ex and figure out something?
You know whenever your down here the welcome mat is always out for you......and Domino sends his licks and slurps. Please let me know if there is anything I can do.

ktn67 · #10 13th October 2002, 10:12 AM

Thanks everyone. And thank you for the kisses Domino. I'm either numb or crying hysterically. Things are friendly for now and I'm hoping for a reconciliation so I don't want to push with custody. I collapsed into a weeping puddle when I got home from work last night and Jewellee was right there givng me kisses and snuggling. She doesn't understand why Mommy's crying and hugging her so tight. I moved my spot in bed down to the foot where she usually sleeps so I could cuddle with her. When I finally went back to my normal spot she plastered herself along my back and the back of my legs. I don't know when he'll have his place ready, he's not moved out yet but he doesn't always come home every night anymore either. I know I will have her for another day or so plus I'm taking her to a show on Sunday that the breeder is going to handle her for. I will talk to her then and see what she has to say about all this. But I'd prefer bf and I work things out than to fight for custody. Besides, the breeder is still co-owner and she told us where she stood on these kinds of issues when we bought Jewellee. She doesn't want to be involved in the battle. She's had it happen before that's why she will only put one name on the registration. If worse comes to worse I'll get one of her pups. BF said I could have pick from her litter. That's sweet and all but nothing can replace Jewellee or him. I just want my life back.

Thank you BW. I didn't really have anywhere else to turn. I've been so involved with bf and Jewellee that I didn'thave time for a social life. My family is ok but momgets so upset I hate to dump it on her and brother is typical guy - you'll get over it.

Jewellee and I need some BW good vibes to put our happy little family back together.

Scorpio · #11 13th October 2002, 10:43 AM

Sending good vibes <<<<<<<<<<Good Vibes>>>>>>>>>>>>> and a lot of happiness!

buddy's_mom_29 · #12 13th October 2002, 01:50 PM

Me and Buddy are sending tons of <<<<<<GOOD VIBES>>>>>>> to you! I am soooo sorry for what you are going through. I too have been there, and thought I would lose it over a broken relationship. I can't imagine losing your bf and Jewellee both

You will be in our thoughts and prayers, and I really hope all works out with you two. But in case it doesn't, please press the custody issue, I would so hate to see you lose your baby, it's obvious how very much you love her. Good luck!