My dad has passed

[Indy's mom]

You dad clearly loved you and your family so much! I have no doubt that the beautiful butterflies were signs that he is well and still watching over you.

Thank you for sharing your lovely poem, it truly touched my heart and I'm sure that it touched everyone at the ceremony on a very deep level.

I'm so sorry that this wonderful man is no longer with you here, I know you will miss him deeply. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and all of your family.

[Chiefsmom]

So sorry to hear of your dad's passing! Our thoughts and prayers are with you throughout your difficult time! Hugs to you!

[sasmeow]

I need some extra boxer (and human) hugs and healing vibes right now. I am still having a very hard time, and feel I am going into a deep depression. I start back at school monday, and work tuesday, but I don't want to go. I haven't talked to anyone on the phone, and I don't want to see anyone. I wish I could just stay in my bed with my dogs and not see anyone. I have been mostly in my bed for the past 2 days, except when I let my dogs out to play and run and to feed them. I feel bad that I am not doing much with them. Please sending me some healing vibes. I need them so much right now. I miss my dad so incredibly much.......

[boxmom]

Sending more vibes. So sorry you are feeling so down. You have been through so much. A disease like alzheimer's can really take its' toll on family members. Remember those butterflies--a beautiful sign that your dear dad is in a better place now. From your posts on this board you seem like an extremely caring and giving person, someone who looks out for everyone with their heart. You need some help yourself now, so talk to your family and friends and let them know you need them now. I hope you feel better soon.

[Austin's Mom]

I really feel for you. When my Mom passed it was so unexpected and shocking. For the first two months after I would get my kids off to school and go back to bed and just cry all day until they came home. It sucks and it's a horrible feeling. Sending you great big human and boxer ((((hugs)))). I wish I could do more.

[djheitz]

Hugs to you....

If you don't want to actually talk to anyone about it, you know we're all here for you, so post away. It's perfectly normal to be in a depressed mood after the death of a parent, so don't think you're way out of range. However, you need to do whatever you can to keep it from getting serious. Izzy and Gus are the perfect 'people' to help you keep busy and active. And remember that your Dad would not want you to go into a decline. Something that's helped me in the past is to start a memory book - pictures and stories - or just a journal. You'd be suprised how many things pop up in your head when you least expect it.

Getting back to work and school will be hard the first week, mostly because everyone will be offering their condolences and saying how sorry they are. If you feel close enough to anyone, you can ask them to pass the word that you're not ready to talk about it and just want to get back into your normal routine as quickly as possible.

Stay strong and feel free to let your feelings out here if you can't do it elsewhere.

[DiverDiva]

Hugs from us and slobbery kisses from the Boxers are coming your way. Your Dad loved his family, and knew that he was loved. Friday was the 4th anniversary of my Dad's passing and although it is still hard, it does get better. I'm sure he's showing your Dad around and maybe they are playing a game of cribbage or talking about fishing, hunting, dogs, kids, or whatever. He loved having people over.

[Gruntsmom]

sasmeow, I'm very sorry you're feeling so sad. I'm sending you lots of healing and positive vibes, and hope you will be lifted from your depression soon. It's very natural to feel the way you do - you've lost your Dad who you love and miss so much, and I understand how painful that is. Izzy and Gus are precious good company for you now, I'm sure they know their Mom is very sad. Take care of yourself, don't forget to eat, and maybe if you take a little walk and get some fresh air with your babies, you will feel better. We are here for you always. HUGS

[Murp.mm]

I have not been on B.W. in a week or so and I am so very sorry to learn about your dad. It is quite normal to feel the way you do. Your father was a huge part of your life and time is the only healer. It's hard to fathom how life just goes on for everyone when you're grieving. But life will go on for you too but only when you're ready. I've lost both my parents and 2 sisters and 1 brother over a relatively short time but with the help of loved ones and good friends I can now look back without crying. They will always be a huge part of my life and I chat with them and ask for their help more often than not. Some day you will be able to do that too without being so sad. But for now you must grieve and don't be ashamed of your feelings. You have every right to be sad and cry when you need to. It will help in your healing process. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. God Bless. May your dad rest in peace.

[My Boxer]

Sending hugs and strength at this time. Remember that your
Dad still lives in your heart. And you can talk to him any time you want. He is always with you.