fear of being pregnant

[marvie]

been there and done that twice.... mine are ages 10 and 5 first one unplanned second was... i was scared both times...but you know what.. the farther along i got the less the fear got.... i didnt get to experience vaginal birth because with my first one my cervix didnt soften up and her head was believed to be too large to fit through my pelvis.... i was disappointed at first and felt i had failed as a woman.. because i couldnt give birth to her the way most women could.... after talking with many very sweet nurses.. they assured me that just because i would nt be pushing her out didnt mean i wasnt giving birth.. i gave her life and thats what giving birth is about not whether they were pushed through the vagina or gently pulled from the abdomen.. so after that i felt much much better... so she was born by c section and everything went great.. it did hurt so dont think by having a c section you will be getting out of anything... and if you do have a c section as soon as you are able to get up and move around do so.. when they tell you that you need to get up they really do mean it.. it will help the soreness leave alot faster..... trust me i had two of them.. my second was routine repeat and i was awake with him.. i recommend you being awake if you must have a c section that way you can hear the babys first cry and hold the baby it helps with bonding so much... things will go just fine its so normal to worry but you will see things will go just fine.... your motherly instincts will kick in and you will know exactly what to do and when to do it... now the terrible two's three's etc... and so on thats another story lol nope it doesnt end with terrible two's lol but in the end it will be worth it... plz keep me posted let me know when you get pregnant.. if you have any questions i will answere them if i can... or someone here will... i love boxer world andall the helpful people here they are just the most wonderful people... hang in there..

[Ronin1]

My daughter is now 3. When I was pregnant with her, my biggest fear is that I would become sick as a dog, and fat a cow. I was a little queasy my first trimester, but after that it was smooth sailing. I didn't get huge at all (most people didn't even know I was pregnant until my ninth month) and it was totally easy. Raising her has been challenge, but sooo much fun. She does new things every day and I just marvel at how unique she is. Just take it day after day - you'll know what to do. And there will always be SOMEONE you can ask for advice (whether warranted or not ) Best of luck! We're trying again for our second child - so wish us luck too!

-Megan

[Scorpio]

I've got two boys 23 and 25 and when I found out I was pregnant I cried and was so happy, never entred my mind about being sick or dying or anything like that. I just felt so happy and good. There was one thing though, I had siatica in my left leg and a bad back from many horse back incidents and thought OMG what if my back and that start to act up I won't be able to take any meds (I didn't want to take anything while pregnant, not even tea or coffee). but during my whole pregnancy I felt so good never an ache or pain. It's nature! make sure you have a good check up and your Dr should see you right through it! Good Luck! Its a miracle!

[firedog]

I just wanted to say Thank you to everyone that responsed to this posting.
All your story have helped put my mind at ease. Its good to know that my feelings are the same as other women out there. I'm so excited for what the future will bring my husband and I, and I will not you know if we have any new news in the future.

Thanks again- Rachel

[Shotze's Mom]

Hmmmm, well...Im on the other end of the spectrum I guess. I have had one child and I have two step-daughters that I thank God for daily. I dont want anymore...nor can I physically HAVE anymore because of my heart condition and the meds Im on. PLUS my pelvis is too small and that makes for mandatory c-section which is NOT something I want to do again. LOTS of people LOVE being pregnant. I hated it. My hormones went nuts, my size 5 body went from 5'9 125 lbs to 5'9 167 lbs because I had to be put on bedrest from HBP(took 4 years to loose the weight). I lost my great boobs. VERY sad thing. My butt went from being a ghetto bootie to a beyonce bootie. I had terrible morning sickness. And I was one of the emergency c-section people. I had to be knocked out and have my son taken without me hearing the first cry. No one was allowed in the delivery room because the doc didnt think we were going to make it. So , I COMPLETELY understand your concern about being pregnant. Im a very healthy person.....was very active...all muscle, ate right, no drugs or alcohol at ALL and still had serious lifethreatening problems. My advice to you.....dont worry about it. Lots of things CAN go wrong, but 99.9% of the time people have healthy pregnancies with no problems in delivery.

P.S. It doesnt hurt THAT bad. Feels like REAL bad cramps. Not as bad as you would think. It IS very tiring. 18 hours of labor would take its toll on anyone, doesnt mean your a wuss. Id like to see a man try to take the pain. They fret over a stumped toe. Believe me....you CAN do it.

[ladyluck_t]

Originally Posted by Shotze's Mom

P.S. It doesnt hurt THAT bad. Feels like REAL bad cramps. Not as bad as you would think. It IS very tiring. 18 hours of labor would take its toll on anyone, doesnt mean your a wuss. Id like to see a man try to take the pain. They fret over a stumped toe. Believe me....you CAN do it.

Ok, i musta had an alien baby then! mine hurt like hell until the epidural was in! then i just wanted a nap! But honestly, i know it hurt really bad, but to this day i can't "remember" the pain, not like the pain i remember from a broken toe. and when you hold that bundle of joy in your arms the first time, when they say "I Love you, Mommy", when they shake off a fall cause their friends are watching, when you see them say "Awwww Mom" . It makes every ounce of pain worth it ten-fold. My son is currently 13. Now i am wondering WHY! but i am sure once he is out of this "teenage" phase it will be better. You have already raised a furbaby. a real baby isnt too different, at least not for me. you still worry, get excited, are constantly wondering if you are being a good mom. but in the end, that unprompted (recall i have a teenager) "i love you mom" still melts your heart. Now, that i am older and have more of a friend relationshup with my mother, i constantly tell her, "THANKS, You did a great job!" So, my best advice is to relax and enjoy! Congratualtions!!

Carolyn and Katie

[jaimie]

Every woman has the same fear. Pregnancy, childbirth, etc...I can explain to you how my pregnancies & deliveries went but ALL of them were different. One thing I have to say though is I LOVED being pregnant and I had some bad pregnancies (pre-term labor, sore muscles, etc...) but feeling the baby move inside of me for the first time.... Well, I finally felt like a woman & a mother. It was the greatest experience of my life and I wish EVERY woman could go through it.

Last thing I want to say is Don't be afraid of pregnancy, anticipate it. It is the greatest thing God could ever give you.

Jaimie

Mother of 4 skin kids: Kelsey 9, Jake 7, Kayla 4, Keely 1 year (on June 24);
Mother of 2 Boxer kids: Baylee 8 1/2, Brandy 1 1/2; & 1 Psycho puttytat

[frankied]

Well....I felt all the same things you are feeling! I was so excited when I found out! It was wonderful! But from that point on I worried! LOL! And you know what? I had nothing to be worried about. I had a great healthy pregnancy and a great delivery (with drugs!!! I have no pain tolerance) and the best part is I have this wonderful daughter and I love her so very much!!! She was worth every backache and mood swing and blood test (there are many it seems!) Don't get me wrong! It is a hard job being a Mom! I mean people think we stay at home all day playing with kids! LOL! It can be trying when your child gets ill or when you are having a bad day. But like I said (and many I am sure will agree) it is so worth it!

There are no words to describe how it will feel the first time you see your baby and hold him/her in your arms! I wish you nothing but luck and happiness! Pregnancy has good days and bad and near the end for me it seems more bad than good as I was so tired and my back ached! But again I am crazy enough to want to do it all again next year!

Christa

[megan313]

WELL....my due date was YESTERDAY! and still no baby. I am starting to get a little nervous about the labor/delivery, eventhough it was not too bad the first time. When they tell you that you forget all of that pain, theyre right! i cant remember what it was like, other than i was soooo excited to get that epidural and go to sleep!

This pregnancy has been a lot more difficult than my first, and I'm SOOO Ready to get this show on the road.

[Barb_IA]

My biggest fear was my water breaking in public. Both my children were born about 10 days past my due date and I had natural childbirth with both. I think the worst part was the horrible morning sickness I had...with both....and the big fear about the water breaking.....doctor had to break my water during both labors...
Being a mother is the greatest. I have enjoyed every minute of it. I planned both my children and have devoted my life to them. My son will be 19 in August and my daughter is 21 and due to have her first baby in October. I'm gonna be a grandma!!! I can't wait and I'm only 40..till August.
It does cost money to raise children but, It's not as hard as what you think. Sure you won't be able to spend on yourself like you use to but, 18 years will go by fast and you will surely see it was all worth it. I bought myself 3 or 4 different pairs of sandals the summer my daughter moved away from home. As long as you have clothes, food and a roof over your head....you can live without "things".

Barb