My Baby Went After DH!

Muggsysmommy · #1 03-02-2005, 03:18 PM

I always tell Aaron that he cannot play with Jack the way he plays with Muggsy because Jack gives me the impression that he gets defensive. Aaron has always played really really rough with the boys and Muggsy knows he is playing but Jack was an abused puppy and starts out playing but then feels the need to defend himself. Of course Aaron thinks I am crazy. Well....last night him and Jack were playing and Jack went nuts and bit Aaron in the neck and when Aaron was on the ground he went after his legs. He did not break the skin but it did leave a mark. I told Aaron that I was not kidding and when Jack gets bigger he could do serious damage and that he shouldn't feel like he has to defend himself against his daddy. Aaron does not believe me of course and continues to rough him up. Is it going to take losing an arm or disfiguring his face to make him understand? I told him if Jack ever hurt him that I would chose Jack over him because he is just dumb to continue to play so rough with him. Sorry for the vent!! Any suggestions??? I feel like Aaron needs obedience training along with Jack.

mygirlrosie · #2 03-02-2005, 03:44 PM

Two things immediately crossed my mind when I read this post. First, your DH needs to stop playing with the puppy that way and second, the puppy needs to somehow learn that using teeth on human bits is never okay.

I know what you're saying..."no kidding, Kate! Duh!"

*sigh*

I think obiedience training for both of them *is* a good idea. I'd recommend something taught by somebody who really *knows* dogs and their behavior, though. It has always been my understanding that humans should not play with dogs like dogs play with each other. I know I always cringe when I see humans rolling around on the floor wrestling with a dog. It just doesn't seem like a good idea to me. I mean, I *love* my Boxer like crazy and don't think for a second she'd hurt anybody, but I wouldn't wrestle with her if you paid me. She's stronger than I am and her teeth are bigger.

Good luck with your puppy. I'm sure he just needs to learn to trust you guys. Gentle and easy seems the way to go.

Muggsysmommy · #3 03-02-2005, 03:50 PM

Muggsy and Aaron wrestle but Muggsy knows when to stop and he never hurts him. He never wrestles with me. If I try he's like "Yeah right Mom I'll hurt you" You know......Daddys play Mommys cuddle. Jack has never gotten to trust Aaron even though he has been with us for three months and he never will if Aaron does not stop wrestling with him. I don't know how to convince Aaron that I am right though. He still thinks Jack is just playing and knows when to stop......obviously not to most people but men......a whole different ball game.

Muggsysmommy · #4 03-02-2005, 04:02 PM

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Originally Posted by ShannonL

These men kill me! I swear to God my boyfriend is totally undoing all the training I've put into Oscar. He refuses to walk Oscar with the Gentle Leader (which I NEED because the dog is way too strong for me), he never tries to teach him bite inhibition, just gets mad when Oscar nips him too hard. I told him this morning that I was sending him away for a week and by the time he came back Oscar would be trained because he wouldn't be there to undo it all. UGH! Sorry for the vent - if you find a school that takes men AND dogs, lemme know. Maybe we'll get a group rate.

Definatly!! Is it a man thing or what. I am not trying to man bash but really.......

Shanz · #5 03-02-2005, 04:11 PM

looks like the two Shannons are in the same position :P. When Rob takes Cin for a walk he doesnt make sure she heels, he wont correct her if she pulls. He plays rough with her, lets her jump all over him when he comes home, lets her try to rip his mitts off his hands (mine now have a hole in them thanks to that) I also bought a body pillow and he used to hit her with it--playing of course..no hard hitting just a bop on the head. Well now she attacks the pillow AND he'd stick his hand under the blanket on the bed an grab hold of her..and she'd dig to get his hand.. well he thought it was the funniest thing.. now she digs at the bed and I have to keep smackin him to tell her to stop.

Ugh men.. cant live with them.. cant live without them

sophie'smom · #6 03-02-2005, 04:18 PM

wow! looks like i'm not the only one! my lil girl sophie is the cutest most well trained little diva until her daddy walks in and then...bam...she's this crazy lil puppy who acts as if she's never been trained!

Muggsysmommy · #7 03-02-2005, 04:24 PM

Whew! What a relief to find out that other people have this problem. Aaron always says that dogs are dumb......well....I was able to train the dog.....and you are still in need of obedience school.....what's with that???

tugger · #8 03-02-2005, 07:45 PM

ditto on all of the above!
Dick lets TUG get away with murder. He does the blanket thing..where he hides his hand. Plays tug of war...lets her jump...bark and run like a wild thing!
BUT to his defense ... tonight he says you know that puppy training book in the bathroom? It says Tug of War isnt good to play with a puppy. He says Ive been backing off the playing rough lately. Little did I know he actually absorbed what he read in the bathroom! So, perhaps there is hope for him!

craZ4HERKIE · #9 03-03-2005, 12:33 AM

I used to go through the same thing with my EX! Men can be sooo daft (sorry guys)! When Herkie was a pup...he'd be a terror when my EX was home, but for me...he'd be an angel! I kept telling him YELLING at Herkie wasn't doing him any good, he'd roughhouse with him...but Herkie didn't know when to stop. Herkie doesn't play rough with me...even though he loves to...I guess he knows he might hurt his Mama. Also, one day in the back yard Herkie & *fool* were playing with a bouncy ball, and *fool* would hold it and have Herkie jump for it and grab it out of his hand

well Herkie's teeth grazed his hand trying to get his toy from his daddy. Well, *fool* got furious! He just couldn't grasp that wasn't how to play with Herkie! I'm sooo glad Herkie doesn't have to deal with him anymore.

harleyboxer · #10 03-03-2005, 08:06 AM

Harley can handle the rough housing and is very gentle, but my bf made a monster out of the rottweiller his roommate had. The dog kind of became ours and she was still young. I had my boston terrier at the time and as long as Scott wasn't home the rottie got along fine with Kermit, but as soon as he walked through the door she would go after him. She listened and behaved when I'd take her to my house (she'd even play tug of war with Kermit and let him win), but I'd take her back and she was crazy and couldn't listen. They asked for way too much from her and she couldn't take it. They wanted her to lay down in a certain spot and not move until she was told (not what a young dog is going to do).
I definitely agree though that with boxers daddy's are for playing and mommy's are for cuddling. Harley thinks that every guy he meets outside wants to play rough with him and every girl wants to be slobbered and hugged.