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To be honest I think it's a bit weird your in-laws offering to pay for their 3 presumably grown up sons to go on holiday with them. Fair enough going on a family holiday but you are also part of the family - and expected you to find the cash so you can be included seems unfair and puts you in a difficult position. I don't think your being selfish at all - the two of you are a team and got married to be together not to go on holiday apart! None of us can tell you what to do but I think trying for IVF and worrying about Tigger's health are more important than a holiday - be honest with your DH too - no point saying your happy for him to go if your going to feel miserable about it before, during and after he's been away. Hope you can come to a decision - good luck.