Your poor kids...and you too! (((HUGS))) to you all! I was going to suggest a Child Advocate Lawyer, but it sounds like it's worked out now so that they can go to dad's BUT only if they want to! Anytime your ex's gf calls...hang up on her! SHE has nothing to do with any of this and should stay out of your business...any judge would be happy to tell her that too! And if your kids were being rude and nasty to her, it's because they have reasons for not liking her and they are just not happy to be there! Honestly, I think you are doing the right thing by getting the order of protection. He seems very short fused and that type of temperament cannot ever be trusted! Even while doing the right thing, sometimes we are left with doubt & fear, I understand that all too well! Hang in there...your life will become normal again and we are always here to support you through your difficult times!