Sharon, so sorry this is late, but I just came across this thread. First of all, kudos to you for finally realizing that your abusive marriage had come to impasse, and for taking the steps necessary to end the oppression.
As long as you are still taking his phone calls, it is imperative that you keep a journal of what is being said. That, coupled with counseling, can help you better understand his pattern of abuse, control, and mani;ulation.
Stay strong, and do keep us posted ~ Cathy