Guess I'll answer myself!
I realize I tend to post these type of things after a particularly wild day, looking more for words of commiseration that this issue will become mostly obsolete as both the kids and Ponza get older.
In any case, after going back and re-reading some of the old posts in this section, I'm feeling better and more confident about the way I'm handling things. It's been rainy here so we've been stuck inside a lot, which makes it hard on everyone. I'm sure this is much of the problem.