I am so very sorry to hear that. Please know that you and your husband will be in my prayers. My heart goes out to you.
I commend you for your control over the situation, I would be saying goodbye because the police where on the way to take me into custody for assault on my neighbor at the minimum.
I have to agree with Jim though. You have a lot more control over the situation than I. I would probably be hauled away by the police kicking and screaming.