Originally Posted by TwoDogs
I'm not surprised that your trainer would say this. Frankly, if the child is not supervised, no coaching from the adult is going on, and the wrestle-play is not approached as a training lesson with the structure of clear expectations and consequences, then I wouldn't want a client to allow it either. You may want to give your instructor more details about how you are coaching the play so that she doesn't think you are just letting Demi and Lucy go at it all willy-nilly.
99% of the time I would say I'm close by, but when they are outside and my daughter is on the swing or playing in my fenced in yard, I tend not to be out there. They aren't allowed to wrestle outside, only play fetch with each other. I'm still trying to teach my daughter not to run while outside with the dog as that tends to get the dog in chase mode.
We're getting there with that. I usually let them go out together if I'm folding clothes by the window, so I can peak out. Not the best, I know, but I'm also trying to teach my daughter it's okay to play outside by yourself too, she's an only, and up until recently she's only wanted to go out if we go out with her. Now that we have the puppy I was hoping she could learn to play without us so much. It's a double edged sword kind of thing right now that I'm playing.