Originally Posted by DyckDogs
Some one posted a few weeks ago that the pain never goes away, you just learn how to deal with it differently. That is the best description I have read yet.
I second this. I lost both my huskies within a year of each other to cancer. My baby girl was almost 13 and her son was 11. I still cry (at night when no one else is around) when I think about them and they have been gone for 3 years now. When I felt it was time to get a new dog (my house felt too empty even with 5 cats and two kids still at home), I couldn't even think of another husky so I got a mixed breed and 10 months later a boxer.
I don't think that I will ever stop thinking about them and I still call Sugar Shayna occaisionly, and Cain still gets called Coda every so often, but at least now I can talk about them to the kids and not cry. I don't want to forget them and I don't want the kids to either, and If I don't talk about them I'm afraid they will be forgotten. Even writing this, I'm crying (but there is no one else here so it is ok.)
Sugar and Cain have not replaced Shay and Coda, but they have helped ease the sadness. So although the pain doesn't go away, it does get easier to deal with it.